Sakinah Mawaddah Warahmah – Sakinah mawaddah warahmah or commonly abbreviated as SAMAWA is a prayer expected by Muslims for those who have just entered into the sacred bond of marriage and building a family. All Muslims who are married certainly want a family that is sakinah, mawaddah, warahmah. That is the purpose of marriage, which is a blessing that Allah SWT gives to those who can build a family. The following is a further understanding of sakinah mawaddah warahmah.
Definition of Sakinah Mawadah
The sentence sakinah mawadah warahmah has actually been written in the Qur’an. This sentence is part of the function and purpose of marriage in Islam. This sentence is also often said when in wedding sermons or in wedding invitations. The following is an explanation from the Qur’an Surah Ar-Rum verse 21:
وَمِنۡ اٰيٰتِهٖۤ اَنۡ خَلَقَ لَكُمۡ مِّنۡ اَنۡفُسِكُمۡ اَزۡوَاجًا لِّتَسۡكُنُوۡۤا اِلَيۡهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيۡنَكُمۡ مَّوَدَّةً وَّرَحۡمَةً ؕ اِنَّ فِىۡ ذٰ لِكَ لَاٰيٰتٍ لِّقَوۡمٍ يَّتَفَكَّرُوۡنَ
Wa min Aayaatihiii an khalaqa akum min anfusikum azwaajal litaskunuuu ilaihaa wa ja’ala bainakum mawad datanw wa rahmah; inna fii dzaalika la Aayaatin liqaumin yatafakkaruun.
Meaning: “And among His signs (greatness) is that He created partners for you from your own kind, so that you are inclined and feel at ease to him and He made between you feelings of love and affection. Indeed, in that there are signs (of Allah’s greatness) for people who think . ” (QSAr-Rum: 21).
In this verse there is the word “litaskunu” or also sakinah, then mawaddah and rahmah. These three words are often combined into one sentence, namely sakinah mawadah warahmah. If translated into Indonesian, sakinah means calm or serene, mawaddah means love and warahmah means mercy. The sentence sakinah mawadah warahmah is in accordance with what is in verse 21 of Surah Ar-Rum. In this verse Allah SWT gives His word that humans are created to be in pairs, namely between wives and husbands to get calm, peace and also love.
1. Meaning of Sakinah
Sakinah comes from Arabic which can be translated into Indonesian with calm, serenity, safety and also peace . Meanwhile, the opposite of peace and serenity are unrest, destruction and shock. What is expected from marriage as in the meaning of sakinah is peace, calm, security and peace in family members. Whereas a family that does not have sakinah means a family full of unrest, destruction and turmoil, that is what must be avoided.
For example, a family that is not sakinah is a family that is full of debates, fights and suspicions. With so many conflicts that occur in the family, it can certainly trigger a divorce. Distrust in a partner is one of the triggers for family breakdown. If the spouses are suspicious of each other and have no trust in each other, and there are other people who deliberately shake up the household or the wife’s resistance to her husband, then it is classified as a family that is not sakinah.
By having calm, serenity, security and peace, conflicts in the family will not occur. With calm, family members will be able to think about how to solve problems calmly because they have a clear mind. Family conflicts will easily occur if there is no sakinah in the family.
2. Meaning of Mawaddah
Mawadah also comes from Arabic which means affection and burning love . The word mawadah has a special meaning for someone who has passionate feelings with their partner. This passionate feeling arises because of other aspects that are owned by the partner, including: beauty, good looks, morals, position, mindset and other things in the partner. In Islam, mawadah is also a nature possessed by humans. Having mawadah in the family will make the family full of love and affection. It’s impossible in a family not to have love, of course it will taste bland. The feeling of love gives a sense of belonging and caring between family members.
A family that has mawadah in it must have positive things in that family. If you don’t have mawadah, your family won’t support each other because you don’t have love. In fact, infidelity can occur because there is no feeling of affection between partners. Families that have mawadah are not formed instantly, but are developed through a process of being nurtured through the love of husband, wife and children. Every family definitely wants a family that is mawadah, because it is a nature of every creature.
3. Meaning of Warahmah
Rahmah means sustenance, forgiveness, grace and mercy . The greatest blessing of course comes from Allah SWT. The family that receives the greatest grace is of course the family that has love, affection and also trust. A family that has warahmah is also not an instant process but a long enough process because it requires understanding to cover each other’s shortcomings and provide understanding.
With patience and sacrifice from husband and wife, it will certainly make the family have warahmah or grace in it. From this process of patience, warahmah will be given by Allah SWT. as the highest form of love in a family. It should be noted that warahmah will not appear if in the family there is mutual disobedience between husband and wife. Families must be calm, peaceful, and have love so that warahmah can be realized.
Characteristics of Sakinah Mawaddah Warahmah
Families who have sakinah mawadah warahmah certainly have visible characteristics or characteristics. Here are some characteristics of a family that has sakinah mawadah warahmah, namely:
- Have calm, serenity and peace in a family.
- Have love, affection and a sense of belonging that is always maintained among family members.
- Having love that leads to Allah SWT and also values in religion, not just love of creatures or just lust.
- Far from suspicion, distrust and also feelings of misgivings with your partner.
- Can maintain association in Islam, no rules are violated in marriage including infidelity.
- Have their respective roles as family members with sincerity and sincerity. The role that belongs to both the husband as the head of the family, the wife as the mother who carries out the mandate of the husband and children as a mandate from Allah SWT to be educated properly.
- Can maintain aspects of faith and worship between each family member, not destroying or plunging each other.
- Supporting work or profession between partners to be able to create a family that is built as a mandate from Allah SWT.
- Can meet the needs of the family including sustenance, sexual needs and also a sense of belonging to one another.
Tips for Sakinah Mawaddah Warahmah to Realize
According to Kiai Djamaluddin, there are five things that husbands and wives need to do to achieve a sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah household. Namely as follows:
1. Forgive each other so that marriage is sakinah mawaddah warahmah
If a husband or wife makes a mistake, or there is a misunderstanding between the two of them, they must be willing to forgive each other and not hold grudges. So that the relationship that was strained due to quarrels can return to harmony.
2. Mutual respect
Respect each other to achieve a sakinah mawadah warahmah household. In this case, the wife respects her husband’s busyness at work and the husband respects his wife’s busyness in managing the household. Even if what your partner doesn’t like, you still have to respect it. Mutual respect also includes respecting the privacy of partners, friends of partners and treating partners well as equal partners in life.
3. Protect and remind each other in kindness.
If the husband or wife makes a mistake, it is the partner’s duty to remind and invite them back to the path of goodness. Likewise in terms of protecting against evil, our duty as husbands or wives is to protect our partners from falling into immorality or evil. As wives, we are obliged to keep the living that our husbands provide clean and blessed. Do not let him give us a living from work that is not lawful. Reminding and protecting each other may be easy to say but hard to do.
4. Deliberation in finding solutions to problems
In solving problems or doing something that concerns the common interest, it should be discussed in advance with your partner so that there will be no bickering in the future. Because the essence of marriage is to share life with the partner we choose.
Benefits of Sakinah Mawaddah Warahmah for Families
Family is the relationship between families, namely father, mother and children. But it’s not just that relationship in the family, there are relationships that are no less important too, namely the relationship in society and their duties. Allah SWT does not create anything unless there is a benefit. A family that is sakinah mawadah warahmah is of course a priority for realizing family goals in society. And of course also an Islamic family will be realized.
1. Carry out the Mission of the Human Caliphate
Humans were created by Allah SWT solely to worship Him. With a family that has sakinah mawadah warahmah, of course it can guide, condition and support the family to always worship Allah SWT. In a family like this, every member, both husband, wife and children, must guide each other in terms of religion and kindness. A family that is sakinah mawadah warahmah does not only love the world but also loves Allah SWT. This has been written in QS AZ Zariyat verse 56:
Wa maa khalaqtul jinna wal insa illaa liya’buduun.
Meaning: ” I did not create jinn and humans except that they worship Me.” (QS Az-Zariyat: 56).
Allah SWT also created humans as Khalifah fil ard. This means that humans were created to build and carry out several things that can provide benefits for prosperity on earth. Benefits can be given with the position you have now with the profession you have too.
The mission of the caliphate can be carried out with enthusiasm if you have a family that is sakinah mawadah warahmah. If there is a career between husband and wife, they will not bring each other down, let alone distance them from Allah SWT. Having a career is of course beneficial for yourself and for other people who are affected by it from us.
2. Lots of worship and pious charity
Allah SWT commands humans to protect themselves and their families from the fires of hell. This means that humans are commanded to stay away from the fire of hell and to multiply good deeds and good deeds. This is not going to be easy if you do it yourself. Therefore, the existence of a sakinah mawadah warahmah family or a good family is certainly in accordance with the expectations of Allah SWT so that it becomes a field of worship and good deeds for because there are many things that can be done with the family. This has been written in QS At-Tahrim verse 6:
يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ قُوٓا۟ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا ٱلنَّاسُ وَٱلْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَٰٓئِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَّا يَعْصُونَ ٱللَّهَ مَآ أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ
Yā ayyuhallażīna āmanụ qū anfusakum wa ahlīkum nāraw wa qụduhan-nāsu wa-ḥijāratu ‘alaihā malā`ikatun gilāẓun syidādul lā ya’ṣụnallāha māarahum wa yaf’alụna mā yu`marụn.
Meaning: “ O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from the fires of hell whose fuel is humans and stones; guardians of angels who are rough, hard, and do not disobey Allah in what He commands them and always do what is commanded. ” (QS At-Tahrim: 6).
Raising children in Islam is also part of the fields of worship and good deeds. Good deeds are only beneficial for families who are cared for with love, affection and sincerity in them. To do this, we need a family that has sakinah mawadah warahmah to be able to worship and do good deeds as much as possible.
A father who makes a living for his family by working will become his own field of merit. Likewise, a mother who takes care of her family and helps her husband support his family is a field of merit and good deeds. Likewise, the husband’s obligation to his wife is a separate reward for the husband’s family.
3. Place in Reaping Love and Compassion
Allah gives good sustenance, one of which is to please his family and descendants. This is of course something that is expensive in family ties, because not everyone can enjoy it. In fact, family, a sense of security and affection are the natural needs of all human beings. a pious woman and a pious man, is one form of family happiness. As in QS An-Nahl verse 72.
وَٱللَّهُ جَعَلَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَٰجًا وَجَعَلَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَزْوَٰجِكُم بَنِينَ وَحَفَدَةً وَرَزَقَكُم مِّنَ ٱلطَّيِّبَٰتِ ۚ أَفَبِٱلْبَٰطِلِ يُؤْمِنُونَ وَبِنِعْمَتِ ٱللَّهِ هُمْ يَكْفُرُونَ
Wallāhu ja’ala Lakum min anfusikum azwājaw wa ja’ala Lakum min azwājikum banīna wa ḥafadataw wa razaqakum minaṭ-ṭayyibāt, a fa bil-bāṭili yu`minụna wa bini’matillāhi hum yakfurụn.
Meaning: ” God made for you wives from your own kind and made for you from your wives, children and grandchildren, and gave you sustenance from the good. So why do they believe in falsehood and deny Allah’s favor?”
A family that is sakinah mawadah warahmah can meet the needs of its members. These needs start from a calm soul, peace, sustenance in the form of wealth, love, sexual relations with a partner, honor and of course other forms of worship that can be practiced in family charity.
The wife is the husband’s mission otherwise. Because marriage in Islam is based on the name of Allah SWT. So building a household is not only a husband’s or wife’s obligation, but an obligation to Allah SWT. The name of the household must have a test. Each household test is different. With religious values, the test can be overcome until the test disappears. Sakinah mawadah warahmah not only for the world but for the hereafter. Towards the happiness of Allah SWT, namely the happiness of the hereafter.
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