Prayers for Both Parents – Saying prayers for both parents is one of the practices of pious and pious children which is highly favored by Allah SWT. In Islam, praying for both parents is one way to be devoted.
Praying for both parents does not have to be only on Mother’s Day or Father’s Day, but can also be or even recommended to be done every day, after the five daily prayers. Saying a prayer for your parents doesn’t have to be if your parents are still alive, sick, or even where their whereabouts are unknown. Even parents who are in a state of death also need to get prayers from their children, because that is the obligation of children.
Then, what are the prayers that a child can say to their parents as a form of devotion? Come on, see the following reviews!
Prayers For Both Parents
1. Prayer For Parents Who Are Still Alive
When parents are still alive, as dutiful children, of course we must pray for them. Whatever their situation and condition, after praying five times a day, we must pray to Allah SWT for them.
So, here is the prayer:
Allahumma fighfirlii wa liwaa lidhayya warham humaa kamaa rabbayaanii shokhiroon
“O Allah, forgive me and my parents. Both my mother and father, love them as they loved me when I was small.”
2. Prayer for parents who are sick
As we get older, the health of our parents will also decrease. They will often get sick, even if they have minor ailments such as colds or coughs, but such things certainly have to be prayed for. Ask Allah SWT to relieve the pain suffered by our parents.
Well, here is a prayer for parents who are sick:
اللَّهُمَّ رَبَّ النَّاسِ اَذْهِبِ الْبorn
Allahumma rabbannaasi adzhibil ba’sa wasy fihu, wa antas syaafi, laa syifaa-a illa syifaauka, syifaan laa yughaadiru saqamaa
“O Allah, Lord of Humans and the universe, remove trouble and give him healing, You are the Most Healing Essence. There is no healing except healing from You, healing that does not leave other diseases.”
Especially if our parents are seriously ill, we are obliged to pray for their recovery. As previously stated, the older you get, the health of your parents can decline. So, here is a prayer for parents who are seriously ill:
Allahumma ahyini maa kaanatil khayatu khoiroli, watawaf fanni maa kaanat wafaatu khirolli.
“O Allah, revive him if it is better for him. And kill him if death is better for him.”
3. Prayers For Parents Who Have Died
Even though our parents have passed away, we as children are obliged to pray for them. This prayer does not have to be said over his grave, but can also be said after the five daily prayers. The prayer is for the spirits of our parents to enter the heaven of Allah SWT.
Well, here is a prayer for parents who have died:
اللَّهُمَّ اغْفِرْ لِلْمُسْلِمِيْنَ وَالْمُسْلِمَاتِ وَالْمُؤْمِنِيْنَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ الأَحْيَاءِ مِنْهُمْ وَالأَمْوَاتِ مِنْ مَشَارِقِ الْاَرْضِ إِلَى مَغَارِبِهَا بَرِّهَا وَبَحْرِهَا، خُصُوْصًا إِلَى آبَاءِنَا وَاُمَّهَاتِنَا وَأَجْدَادِنَا وَجَدَّاتِنَا وَأَسَاتِذَتِنَا وَمُعَلِّمِيْنَا وَلِمَنْ أَحْسَنَ إِلَيْنَا وَلِأَصْحَابِ الحُقُوْقِ عَلَيْنَا
Allahummaghfir lil muslimina wal muslimat, wal mukminina wal mukminat, al-ahyai minhum wal amwat, min masyariqil ardhi ila maghoribiha, barriha wa bahriha, khushushan ilaa aba’ina, wa ummahatina, wa ajdadina, wa jaddatina, wa ustadzina, wa mu’alliman , wa li man ahsana ilaina, wa li ashabil huquqi ‘alaina.
“O Allah, forgive the believers, believers, Muslims, Muslims, those who are still alive, those who have died, those who are scattered from east to west, on land and at sea, especially fathers, mothers, grandfathers, grandmothers, ustadz, teachers, those who have do good to us, and those who still have rights against us.”
4. Prayer So that Both Parents Always Get Ridho from Allah SWT
This prayer is useful so that our parents always get the blessing of Allah SWT. When you say this prayer, of course the blessing of Allah SWT is not only given to the parents, but also to the child as the one who prays this good prayer.
Well, here is a prayer so that both of our parents get the blessing of Allah SWT:
فَتَبَسَّمَ ضَاحِكًا مِّنْ قَوْلِهَا وَقَالَ رَبِّ اَوْزِعْنِيْٓ اَنْ اَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ الَّتِيْٓ اَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيَّ وَعَلٰى وَالِدَيَّ وَاَنْ اَعْمَلَ صَالِحًا تَرْضٰىهُ وَاَدْخِلْنِيْ بِرَحْمَتِكَ فِيْ عِبَادِكَ الصّٰلِحِيْنَ
Fa tabassama ḍāḥikam ming qaulihā wa qāla rabbi auzi’nī an asykuro ni’matakallatī an’amta ‘alayya wa ‘alā wālidayya wa an a’mala ṣāliḥan tarḍāhu wa adkhilnī biraḥmatika fī ‘ibādikaṣ-ṣāliḥīn
“So he smiled and laughed because (heard) the words of the ant. And he prayed: “O my Lord, give me inspiration to continue to be grateful for Your blessings that You have bestowed on me and my two parents and to do good deeds that You are pleased with; and enter me with Your grace into the ranks of Your pious servants. (QS. An-Naml: 19)
5. Prayer for Forgiveness and Safety for Both Parents
When parents are on a trip, it’s good for us to always pray for their safety. Not only that, as filial children, we can also pray to Allah SWT so that our parents always receive forgiveness for the sins they have committed. Because our parents are also human, they must have mistakes and sins.
Well, here is a prayer asking for forgiveness and safety for our parents:
رَبَّنَا ٱغْفِرْ لِى وَلِوَٰلِدَىَّ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَوْمَ يَقُومُ ٱلْحِسَابُ
Rabbighfir lī wa liwālidayya wa lil-mu`minīna yauma yaqụmul-ḥisāb
“O our Lord, forgive me and my parents and all the believers on the day of reckoning (the Day of Judgment)” (QS Ibrahim: 41)
Getting to Know What Birrul Walidain Is
Birrul Walidain is the term for all the good that is presented by a child to their parents. Birrul Walidain comes from the word ” beer ” which means ” good “. Based on the words of Rasulullah SAW, ” Al-Birr is as good as morals ” (Narrated by HR. Muslim).
In the book Ad Durrul Mantsur 5/259, it is stated that “Al Birr is obeying both parents in everything they order you, as long as you don’t disobey Allah SWT, and Al ‘Huquq and stay away from them and don’t do good to him.”
So, based on the book, it can be concluded that we as filial children must obey all orders from our parents, as long as they are not orders that are against religious orders and social norms.
If we disobey orders, our parents will get angry and even cry. It should be known that making parents angry and even crying is a sinful act. If both parents feel sad about our behavior, immediately apologize and admit that we made a mistake. However, if there is a misunderstanding, explain immediately so that everything becomes more certain and clear.
Birrul Walidain Law
In Islam, the law to serve parents or carry out Birrul Walidain is mandatory. Even though it is mandatory, there are also exceptions, namely if our parents actually give orders that violate religion and social norms. The basis for implementing Birrul Walidain is the Al-Quran and hadith.
In the holy book Al-Quran, there are many verses that mention the obligation to serve parents, for example:
- QS An-Nisa: 36
۞ وَٱعْبُدُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا۟ بِهِۦ شَيْـًٔا ۖ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَٰنًا وَبِذِى ٱلْقُرْبَىٰ وَٱلْيَتَٰمَىٰ وَٱلْمَسَٰكِينِ وَٱلْجَارِ ذِى ٱلْقُرْبَىٰ وَٱلْجَارِ ٱلْجُنُبِ وَٱلصَّاحِبِ بِٱلْجَنۢبِ وَٱبْنِ ٱلسَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَٰنُكُمْ ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَن كَانَ مُخْتَالًا فَخُورًا
Wa’budullāha wa lā tusyrikụ bihī syai`aw wa bil-wālidaini iḥsānaw wa biżil-qurbā wal-yatāmā wal-masākīni wal-jāri żil-qurbā wal-jāril-zunubi waṣ-ṣāḥibi bil-jambi wabnis-sabīli wa mā malakat aimānukum, innallāha lā yuḥibbu mang kāna mukhtālan fakhụrā
“ Worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him. And do good to your parents , relatives, orphans, the poor, close neighbors and distant neighbors, and colleagues, Ibn Sabil and slaves. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are arrogant and proud of themselves, “(An-Nisa: 36)
In the translation of the verse, it states that we must do good to our parents as our parents. Doing good is an order and an obligation.
- Al-Isra: 23
۞ وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوٓا۟ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَٰنًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا
Wa qaḍā rabbuka allā ta’budū illā iyyāhu wa bil-wālidaini iḥsānā, immā yablughanna ‘indakal-kibara aḥaduhumā au kilāhumā fa lā taqul lahumā uffin wa lā tanhar-humā wa qul lahumā qaulan karīmā
“And your Lord has ordered that you should not worship other than Him and that you should do good to your parents in the best way possible . If one of them or both of them reaches an advanced age under your care, then never say to both of them the word “ah” and don’t yell at them and say glorious words to them. ” (QS. Al-Isra: 23)
A scholar named Asy Syaukani once said that Allah commands us to do good to both parents along with the command to monotheism and worship Him. This is a notification of how great their truth (truth) is, while helping their affairs (work), then this is a matter that is no longer hidden (his order).
- QS Luqman: 14
وَوَصَّيْنَا ٱلْإِنسَٰنَ بِوَٰلِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُۥ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَٰلُهُۥ فِى عَامَيْنِ أَنِ ٱشْكُرْ لِى وَلِوَٰلِدَيْكَ إِلَىَّ ٱلْمَصِيرُ
Wa waṣṣainal-insāna biwālidaīh, ḥamalat-hu ummuhụ wahnan ‘alā wahnin wa fiṣāluhụ fī ‘āmaini anisykur lī wa liwālidaīk, ilayyal-maṣīr
“And We commanded mankind (to do good) to two of their mothers and fathers; his mother had carried him in a state of increasing weakness, and weaned him in two years. Give thanks to Me and to your two parents, only to Me is your return.”
- Hadith of Al Mughirah bin Syu’bah
“Indeed, Allah has forbidden you to disobey mothers, bury daughters alive, and do not want to give but beg (hunks) and Allah hates you (saying) he said so and so and so and so said (without researching first) , asking a lot (which is not useful), and wasting wealth. (Narrated by Imam Muslim in his Sahih No. 1757)
Example of Birrul Walidain
When Parents Are Still Alive
- Speak softly and politely
- Not criticizing parents, thereby causing them to be criticized by others
- Obey their orders, as long as they do not conflict with Shari’a and religious beliefs and social norms
- Not arrogant in front of parents
- Devoted and humble (tawadhu’) in front of parents
- Ask permission when you want to travel
When Parents Have Died
- Fulfill all promises that have not been fulfilled, during life first. For example carrying out wills, paying debts, and others.
- Organizing the management of the corpse, starting from the process of bathing, shrouding, lighting, to burying it.
- Pray for both after the five daily prayers and sunnah prayers
- Asking for forgiveness for both of them after praying five times a day and praying sunnah
The priority of Birrul Walidain
- Hadith of Abdullah Ibn Umar
This hadith reveals that the blessing of Allah SWT lies in the pleasure of the parents as well. Therefore, if you are going to apply for a job, take an exam, or go on a long trip, don’t forget to ask your parents for blessing so that Allah SWT will also give you blessing in our affairs.
God bless you
( اخرجه الترمذي وصححه ابن حبان والحاكم)
From Abdullah bin ‘Amrin bin Ash ra he said, the Prophet SAW said: “The pleasure of Allah lies in the pleasure of the parents, and the displeasure of Allah lies in the anger of the parents” . (HRA t-Tirmidhi. This hadith is considered authentic by Ibn Hibban and Al-Hakim)
- Hadith of Abu Hurairah
عَنْ اَبِي هُرَيرَةَ رضي الله عنه قال جَاءَ رَجُلٌ الى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال يَا رس قال: اُمُّك قال: ثُمَّ مَنْ؟ قال: ثُمَّ اُمُّك قال: ثم من؟ قال :ثم امُّك قال: ثم من؟ قال : ثم اَبُوْكَ (اخرجه البخاري)
From Abu Hurairah ra he said: “One time a man came to Rasulullah SAW, then asked: “O Messenger of Allah, who has the right for me to associate well?” The Prophet replied: “Your mother!”, then who? The Messenger of Allah replied: “Your mother!”, then who? The Prophet replied: “Your mother!” Again the man asked: then who? The Prophet replied: “Your father!” (HR. Bukhari)
So, those are the prayers that can be said for both parents, both those who are still alive and those who have passed away. As filial children, we must always be able to carry out orders from both of them. If we want to refuse the order, say it in a soft and polite voice, don’t yell at them. Try to discuss with your parents about whatever we are going to do so that misunderstandings do not arise and get ridho from them. Remember, that the pleasure of Allah SWT lies in the pleasure of parents.
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