Anger in Islam and its Prohibition in Hadith – Humans are creatures that have emotions within them. There are many types of emotions that can affect how humans live their lives and interact with others. Not infrequently, humans are often controlled by their own emotions, even though it is humans who should control these emotions. Emotions greatly affect human life, starting from the choices we make, the actions we take and all the perceptions we have of something.
The realm of psychology explains that there are six basic types of emotions that exist in humans. Emotions of joy, sadness, fear, disgust, surprise, and anger. Not only in the world of science, emotions are also listed in the holy book of Muslims, namely the Koran and are also discussed in the hadiths of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. How is the emotion of anger in Islam? To find out more, see the discussion below.
Angry Emotion
The emotion of anger can be a very strong emotion. It can be characterized by feelings of hostility, frustration, or hatred towards other people. Almost similar to fear, anger can also play a role in the body’s response to fight. When a threat creates anger, of course humans can automatically fend off the danger to protect themselves.
Angry emotions can be caused by hurt feelings or unwanted behavior by someone. Therefore, the feeling that is felt when unwanted things happen can make someone angry. This can only be prevented by controlling it or forgiving it, which Sinaumed’s can learn from in the book Understanding and Managing Emotions below.
This angry emotion is often seen in a face like a frown with bulging eyes. Take a firm stance, or look away. Talking harshly or shouting, sweating profusely and blushing. Angry people can also hit, kick or even throw objects around them.
This anger is actually often considered a negative emotion, even though it’s not always like that. This angry emotion can help to clarify one’s needs in a relationship. In addition, this angry emotion can also motivate someone to take an action or even find a solution to an existing problem.
Anger becomes a negative emotion if it is excessive and expressed in an unhealthy, harmful or harmful way to others. Like hitting, kicking or throwing things around which of course can harm yourself and others. This uncontrolled anger can turn into violence or even abuse.
The consequences of this angry emotion can affect both mental and physical. If anger cannot be controlled, it will be difficult for someone to make rational decisions. It can also have an impact on a person’s physical health. Some diseases associated with angry emotions are heart disease and diabetes.
Angry means the feeling of displeasure, rage or anger. In Arabic, the word has the same meaning, namely ‘gadlab’ . This gadlab means the overflow of blood in the body and accompanied by the desire to torture. In addition, the word gadlab can also mean uncontrollable emotions and feelings of hostility.
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Anger in Islam According to the Quran and Hadith
In the Al-Quran, anger is shown in the story of Prophet Musa and Prophet Jonah which is shown in different forms of anger. This is stated in the letter Al-A’raf verse 150 which reads:
وَلَمَّا رَجَعَ مُوْسٰٓى اِلٰى قَوْمِهٖ غَضْبَانَ اَسِفًاۙ قَالَ بِئْسَمَا خَلَفْتُمُوْنِيْ مِنْۢ بَعْدِيْۚ اَعَجِلْتُمْ اَمْرَ رَبِّكُمْۚ وَاَلْقَى الْاَلْوَاحَ وَاَخَذَ بِرَأْسِ اَخِيْهِ يَجُرُّهٗٓ اِلَيْهِ ۗقَالَ ابْنَ اُمَّ اِنَّ الْقَوْمَ اسْتَضْعَفُوْنِيْ وَكَادُوْا يَقْتُلُوْنَنِيْۖ فَلَا تُشْمِتْ بِيَ الْاَعْدَاۤءَ وَلَا تَجْعَلْنِيْ مَعَ الْقَوْمِ الظّٰلِمِيْنَ.
“And when Musa had returned to his people, he was angry and sad and said, “What a terrible deed you did during my absence! Are you going to go ahead with the promise of your Lord?” Musa also threw the tablets (Torah) and grabbed the head of his brother (Aaron) while pulling towards him. (Aaron) said, “O son of my mother! These people have considered me weak and they almost killed me, so don’t make your enemies rejoice at my misfortune, and don’t make me an unjust person.”
This verse tells about the Prophet Musa who returned from the hill of Thur sad and angry. This is because he saw the deviation committed by his people when they were left by the Prophet Musa to pray to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala. At that time his people instead worshiped cows and became followers of samiri.
After that, Prophet Musa pulled Harun’s head emotionally because he thought that Aaron was the one who allowed the deviation to happen. Prophet Musa thought that Aaron did not stop or prevent this. From this verse, it can be seen that when Prophet Musa was angry, he grabbed Aaron’s hair.
However, it can be seen that the Prophet Musa was still able to control his anger, so he could still listen to Harun’s explanation. Discover the story of the Prophet Musa which is full of wisdom to be used as a reflection along with other stories through the book If We Lived in the Age of Prophet Musa.
Apart from Prophet Musa, there is also a story about Prophet Jonah when he was angry. This is described in the letter Al-Anbiya verse 87 which reads:
وَذَا النُّوْنِ اِذْ ذَّهَبَ مُغَاضِبًا فَظَنَّ اَنْ لَّنْ نَّقْدِرَ عَلَيْهِ فَنَادٰى فِى الظُّلُمٰتِ اَنْ لَّآ اِلٰهَ اِلَّآ اَنْتَ سُبْحٰنَكَ اِنِّيْ كُنْتُ مِنَ الظّٰلِمِيْنَ
“And (remember the story of) Zun Nun (Yunus), when he left in a state of anger, then he thought that We would not make it difficult for him, so he prayed in a very dark state, “There is no god but You, Glory to You. Verily, I am of the wrongdoers.”
From the verse above, we can see that Prophet Yunus was angry and left his people. This was done by the Prophet Yunus because he thought that his people did not care about him, so he left them. When Prophet Yunus left, his people realized their mistake and finally they returned to the right path. According to some commentators, the Prophet Jonah left because he did not accept the destiny given by Allah Ta’ala.
The anger that arose at Prophet Yunus and Prophet Musa was the result of the evil committed by their people. The anger described in the two verses above is anger related to Islam. This seems to imply that a person must be able to control himself when angry emotions arise.
In the story of Prophet Musa, anger is depicted that is vented to physical contact. Prophet Musa at that time grabbed Harun’s head. Describes that when someone is angry they can get out of control to make physical contact and could harm someone. Meanwhile, the Prophet Jonah is described as angry which actually makes him turn away.
The Prophet Yunus did not seem to care about his people who were evil. The way the Prophet Yunus vented his anger on this verse is a form of protest, but without physical contact resistance. Find the complete story of the Prophet Jonah in the book Jonah, The Prophet in the Stomach of a Fish accompanied by interesting illustrations!
There are lots of people who are angry and sometimes they just don’t care anymore because they are really angry.
In the hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, there is an explanation about the prohibition of anger. As is well known, this angry emotion can give birth to great physical strength. This power can even control the hearts and minds of humans. Angry emotions that arise can also give birth to great passion and destroy common sense. Here is a hadith about the prohibition of anger which reads:
عَنْ أَبِيْ هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ رَجُلًا قَالَ لِلنَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : أَوْصِنِيْ ، قَالَ : (( لَا تَغْضَبْ )). فَرَدَّدَ مِرَارًا ؛ قَالَ : (( لَا تَغْضَبْ )). رَوَاهُ الْبُخَارِيُّ
From Abu Hurairah radhiyallahu ‘anhu, that there was a man who asked the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam he said: O Messenger of Allah, convey a word to me and summarize it hopefully I will understand it. Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said: Don’t be angry. Then I repeated it many times, all of which the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam replied with the words, Don’t be angry! (Narrated by Ahmad)
How to Control Anger According to the Prophet’s Instructions
Angry emotions cannot be eliminated in humans. This is a human instinct. According to Al-Ghazali, there are two ways to control anger. The first is not to indulge in anger, except only on issues that are not prohibited in religion and do not conflict with human common sense. This exercise can be done by forcing yourself and doing it over and over again until someone forgives himself. That way humans must train or weaken the potential for anger in themselves so that, when angry emotions arise, they are not too excessive and do not hurt other people.
The second is the practice of contemplating that all human beings will end up in the grave. By always contemplating it, humans will become more ascetic in the world. It’s good that we always keep our minds and hearts busy with positive things, so that angry emotions have no place in our hearts anymore. In the Al-Quran it is also explained that holding anger is better than replying to it. This is found in the An-nahl verse 126-127 which reads:
وَاِنْ عَاقَبْتُمْ فَعَاقِبُوْا بِمِثْلِ مَا عُوْقِبpet
“And if you reply, then repay with (reply) the same as the torment that was inflicted on you. But if you are patient, indeed that is better for those who are patient.”
Amen
“And be patient (Muhammad) and your patience is only with the help of Allah and do not grieve over their (disbelief) and do not (also) narrow your chest against the deception they are planning.”
In addition, there are also several hadiths that explain how to reduce anger. Things that can be done in silence so that words that are not liked by Allah Ta’ala do not come out that can hurt other people’s hearts. The hadith that states to be silent reads:
وَ إِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَسْكُتْ
“If one of you is angry, be silent.” (Narrated by Ahmad)
If silence is not enough to relieve the anger inside, then try to change positions. This is in accordance with the hadith narrated by Abu Daud. The hadith reads:
Amen
“If one of you gets angry while standing, then sit down. If the anger has disappeared (then enough). But if it doesn’t go away, then lie down.” (Narrated by Abu Dawud)
Apart from being silent and changing positions, it’s a good idea to try taking ablution water. Ablution water besides functioning to cleanse oneself also has the benefit of cleansing the heart. When taking ablution water, we may forget the bad things we want to do when we are angry. The emotion of anger is a satanic trait, satan comes from fire. To extinguish the fire should wash with water, namely water ablution. This is in accordance with the hadith of the prophet which reads:
إِنَّ الْغَضَبَ مِنْ الشَّيْطَانِ وَإِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ خُلِقَ مِنْ النَّارِ وَإِنَّمَا تُطْفَأُ النَّارُ بِالْمَاءِ فَإِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَتَوَضَّأْ
“Surely anger is from satan, and satan was created from fire. The fire will be extinguished with water. If one of you is angry, he should perform ablution.” (Narrated by Abu Dawud)
- Think before you speak. This of course can be one way to control yourself when there is anger inside. Before speaking, it’s good to be silent and think for a moment, whether those words won’t hurt others or make you regret yourself.
- When you are calmer, you can express these angry emotions. Keep in mind not to hurt anyone when expressing angry emotions.
- Exit the room. This is of course to avoid endless debate. Besides that, you can also try activities such as traveling, sports and doing hobbies that you like.
- Take a moment. For adults actually this should be able to do. Try practicing every time you feel angry, to wait a moment. So that when expressing anger is not passionate. A short break is very necessary so that feelings are more comfortable and anger can subside.
- Identify possible solutions. when you’re angry, it’s actually not always negative. There are times when it can actually bring up a solution that can be done to solve the problem.
- Don’t hold grudges. Humans may often hold grudges so that when they are angry, everything will just be blown away so that their words or actions can hurt others and make them regret themselves. When we hate something or someone, we often hold a grudge against that thing. Try not to hold grudges.
- Try to use humor when releasing tension. This of course can relieve and relieve tension. Using humor can help us to deal with what makes us angry. However, don’t use sarcasm, avoid it. Sarcasm of course can also hurt feelings and make things worse than before.
